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		<title>Brainwashed &#8211; Tom Burrell</title>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 24 Mar 2010 20:01:05 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[I have not yet read the book, but I have ordered it.  I heard about this book first on Twitter, believe it or not, and the subject matter interests me very much.  I was just have a conversation the other day with someone about how Black slaves and free Blacks &#8211; many of [...]<p><a href="http://sharethis.com/item?&#038;wp=2.9.2&#38;publisher=a665bfb0-94bd-4d85-a2f9-c6e46c00234e&#38;title=Brainwashed+%26%238211%3B+Tom+Burrell&#38;url=http%3A%2F%2Fneosoulmama.info%2Fbrainwashed-tom-burrell.html">ShareThis</a></p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I have not yet read the book, but I have ordered it.  I heard about this book first on Twitter, believe it or not, and the subject matter interests me very much.  I was just have a conversation the other day with someone about how Black slaves and free Blacks &#8211; many of whom fought hard for freedom, fought hard for the right to read and fought hard to educate themselves &#8211; would be appalled at how their descendants are behaving and presenting themselves to the world as a whole.  Here is an excerpt from a chapter:<br />
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<em>Ex<em>cerpt: &#8216;Brainwashed&#8217;</em><br />
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by Tom Burrell</p>
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<p><strong>Chapter 2</strong></p>
<p>Relationship Wrecks</p>
<p>Why Can&#8217;t We Form Strong Families?</p>
<p>The shattering blows on the Negro family have made it fragile, deprived and often psychopathic.</p>
<p>— Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr.</p>
<p>On Father&#8217;s Day, June 15, 2008, Barack Obama, then only a candidate for the U.S. presidential nomination, stood before a black congregation at a Chicago South Side church and delivered an important message to the black community:</p>
<p>    Of all the rocks upon which we build our lives, we are reminded today that family is the most important &#8230; But if we are honest with ourselves we&#8217;ll also admit that too many fathers are missing from too many lives and too many homes. They have abandoned their responsibilities, acting like boys instead of men. And the foundations of our families are weaker because of it.</p>
<p>While Obama was congratulated for boldly taking absentee black fathers to task and condemned for taking <a href=http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1401925928?ie=UTF8&amp;tag=neosoulessent-20&amp;linkCode=as2&amp;camp=1789&amp;creative=390957&amp;creativeASIN=1401925928&quot;&gt;&lt;img border=&quot;0&quot; src=&quot;51o1eVRvbeL._SL160_.jpg&quot;&gt;&lt;/a&gt;&lt;img src=&quot;http://www.assoc-amazon.com/e/ir?t=neosoulessent-20&amp;l=as2&amp;o=1&amp;a=1401925928&quot; width=&quot;1&quot; height=&quot;1&quot; border=&quot;0&quot; alt=&quot;&quot; style=&quot;border:none !important; margin:0px !important;&quot; /&gt;"><img src="http://neosoulmama.info/wp-content/uploads/brainwashed-150x150.jpg" alt="" title="brainwashed" width="150" height="150" class="alignright size-thumbnail wp-image-154" /></a>an opportunistic shot at black men for political gain, all sides missed the most important points. Black men are not just absent from their children&#8217;s lives; too many black men and women are absent from each other&#8217;s lives.</p>
<p>In other words, it&#8217;s not just a fathering problem; it&#8217;s a &#8220;family-ing&#8221; problem, another casualty of our addiction to the Black Inferiority brand. The major challenge, therefore, is to discuss and seriously dissect<br />
the black family problem.</p>
<p>Songs to the Beat (down) of Black Life</p>
<p>We sing, dance, and make love to catchy beats that endorse, reinforce, and promulgate our most self-destructive habits.</p>
<p>The messages are not only telegraphed through our music. The muddy milieu of black relationships seemingly splash across the front pages of tabloids, on Internet pages, on the nightly news and TV dramas, and in everyday advertising. The media gleefully amplified the exploits of a wildly successful R&#038;B singer beaten bloody by her equally popular boyfriend. Of course, the juicy story of the black televangelist strangled and stomped by her preacher husband on a hotel parking lot also received plenty of media play.</p>
<p>Flip the channel or turn the page and there are the &#8220;baby mamas&#8221; and &#8220;baby daddies&#8221; so ubiquitous in common American culture that they become plot points or titles for mainstream comedies and movies.</p>
<p>And there, on the news, backed by respected research, are the products of all this ingrained promiscuity and violence — young children seemingly running amok in urban cities that breed violence, some left to raise their own siblings in the absence of negligent or missing parents.</p>
<p>The syndicated television program Maury, hosted by Maury Povich, is known for its &#8220;Who&#8217;s Your Daddy?&#8221; segments. Much of the content is based on issuing paternity tests to teens and young adults in hopes of determining fatherhood. In just one week during the summer of 2009, I watched these scenarios:</p>
<p>    Three young African American women — girls really — accused a young man of fathering their three children — all born within a month of one another. The young man had another 7-month-old child with his current girlfriend. In another segment, a young girl slept with two men at the same time, and was unsure who fathered her child. Then, there was the story about a mother who paid her daughter&#8217;s boyfriend for sex.</p>
<p>Many of Maury&#8217;s guests are black, and the sheer number of these cases is damning. Shows like these, along with court television shows that promote the same dysfunction, are very popular. I couldn&#8217;t help but imagine the vast numbers of people indoctrinated by these images of black family chaos. And it&#8217;s not like we can put 100 percent of the blame for this public buffoonery on the producers of these shows. These situations aren&#8217;t fabricated; they&#8217;re just carefully picked realities of black life. Sadly, it&#8217;s art (and I use the word loosely) that imitates life. We watch these programs like a gory train wreck because they involve so many people who look like us.</p>
<p>Blacks not only dance to the beat of family destruction, we patronize films by black producers and directors that bombard our brains and reinforce all the bad we&#8217;ve been fed about ourselves — first by the white ruling class, and now abetted by our brainwashed brethren. Whether it&#8217;s sagas like Rihanna and Chris Brown, or negative, self-demeaning movies, or characters like those depicted in HBO&#8217;s gritty urban drama The Wire — black relationships and families are seen as hopelessly at odds, dysfunctional, violent, and unsubstantial.</p>
<p>Yet we accept and share these perceptions without question or qualm. Passionate conversations about &#8220;no good black men&#8221; among groups of black women are not irregularities. What is a rare occurrence, however, is our willingness to go to the historic root of negative black male behavior or discuss how fatherless homes help shape the sentiments shared by so many black women.</p>
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<p>Interesting stuff.  I can&#8217;t wait to read it!</p>
<p>1love<br />
n&#8217;mama<code></code></p>
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		<title>Educational Websites</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 19 Oct 2009 15:41:53 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[If you have been loyal readers of this blog, you know that I place a high value on education.  However, for those who are not completely satisfied with the quality of education that your children are receiving – and believe me that can happen in either a private or a public school – it [...]<p><a href="http://sharethis.com/item?&#038;wp=2.9.2&#38;publisher=a665bfb0-94bd-4d85-a2f9-c6e46c00234e&#38;title=Educational+Websites&#38;url=http%3A%2F%2Fneosoulmama.info%2Feducational-websites.html">ShareThis</a></p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>If you have been loyal readers of this blog, you know that I place a high value on education.  However, for those who are not completely satisfied with the quality of education that your children are receiving – and believe me that can happen in either a private or a public school – it is up to you to take action.  Now, usually, a parent going into a school that has an established curriculum may not make that much of a difference, especially in public school.  So what steps can you take to ensure that your child is ahead of the curve as it relates to education?</p>
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<p>Well, we have this thing called the Internet, and believe me, beyond the entertainment and gaming sites (and let’s not forget Facebook), there is truly a wealth of information out there for the taking – the trouble is taking the time to weed through all the sites and separate the wheat from the chaff.  What I have done over the years is collect a set of sites that I have used with my classroom students as well as my own children.  In addition, I’ve researched sites that I’ve collected from other sites and vetted them to my satisfaction.  Therefore, what you see here are a collection of websites that carry high-quality information – no need to run a search – at least for now.</p>
<p>Please use these sites and report back in the comment form – let us know how these websites benefited you and your child.</p>
<p>Printable Worksheets/General</p>
<p>http://www.education.com/</p>
<p>http://www.tlsbooks.com/</p>
<p>http://www.familyeducation.com/home/</p>
<p>http://abcteach.com/</p>
<p>Science/Geography</p>
<p>http://kids.nationalgeographic.com/kids</p>
<p>Geo Quizzes &#8211;  http://www.lizardpoint.com/fun/geoquiz/<br />
Science Projects &#8211; http://www.scienceproject.com/<br />
Science Projects &#8211; http://www.libraryspot.com/features/scienceprojects.htm</p>
<p>Mathematics/Arithmetic</p>
<p>http://mathforum.org/dr/math/</p>
<p>http://www.aaamath.com/</p>
<p>http://www.coolmath.com/home.htm</p>
<p>http://mathworld.wolfram.com/ (Grades 6-12 specifically)<br />
http://visualfractions.com/ &#8211; Fractions</p>
<p>Reading/Language Arts<br />
http://www.readprint.com/  &#8211; Free Online Books Library<br />
The Five Paragraph Essay &#8211; http://www.geocities.com/SoHo/Atrium/1437/howto.html<br />
Writing Process &#8211; http://www.angelfire.com/wi/writingprocess/</p>
<p>Be sure to check your state’s education website for curriculum standards and a list of objectives/goals that are to be taught for each grade.  This will also help guide you to what your child needs to know.</p>
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		<title>Walk in others&#8217; Moccasins</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 10 Jul 2009 00:10:09 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[ Note:  As you read this article, please don’t think I’ve gone “soft” when I write “seems to” or “appears to”.  I don’t the full facts of the situation, nor do I know the racial statistics of either the club or the camp.  I only know what has been reported, and we [...]<p><a href="http://sharethis.com/item?&#038;wp=2.9.2&#38;publisher=a665bfb0-94bd-4d85-a2f9-c6e46c00234e&#38;title=Walk+in+others%26%238217%3B+Moccasins&#38;url=http%3A%2F%2Fneosoulmama.info%2Fwalk-in-others-moccasins.html">ShareThis</a></p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p> Note:  As you read this article, please don’t think I’ve gone “soft” when I write “seems to” or “appears to”.  I don’t the full facts of the situation, nor do I know the racial statistics of either the club or the camp.  I only know what has been reported, and we all know that the media is not always accurate, and there is always a tendency toward bias, one way or another.</p>
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<p>There was a recent story in the news that’s got a lot of people “a-twitter”.  It involves a situation between black children and a private swim club, which I assume to be primarily white.  I have seen posts about this on both twitter and Facebook.  I was a little taken aback about the comments that were made, some very hate-filled and viscious.  I’m not the type of person who takes everything I see at face value, so I decided to do a little research on my own before.</p>
<p>The basic situation as I understand it is this:  a summer camp that seems to be mostly or all black children paid for a membership at a private swim club which seems to be mostly white.  When the campers got there to swim apparently, the white members of the club made comments to the effect of “what are all these black kids doing here” etc.  The club then revoked the summer camp’s membership and refunded their money saying.  The club’s spokespeople were also quoted as saying that these children changed the “complexion  and atmosphere” of the club.  I do readily admit that “complexion” wasn’t the best choice of words!!</p>
<p>On the surface, this seems like a terrible story, a story of racism in 2009.   Since I don’t know specifics and try to see the best in situations, there might be another side to this situation that of which we’re not aware.  So, take a deep breath, sit back and let’s walk through this together.</p>
<p>Here’s the possibilities of what happened:</p>
<p>1.  The swim club is owned by a bunch of racist jerks who deliberately took the summer camp’s money and then revoked their membership.  </p>
<p>2.  The agreement between the club and the camp wasn’t clear – the club wasn’t expecting 60 children to show up at the club at one time.  For those who have been around pools with children know, that’s a LOT of children in the pool.  Imagine the screaming, yelling, pushing, running, shoving, splashing etc. that may have been going on.  And this goes for children of ANY color.  </p>
<p>3.  The club’s members complained because 60 children disrupted the placidity of the club.</p>
<p>4.  See #3 – and the children were black.</p>
<p>Put your self in this situation.  You pay however much to join a private swim club instead of going to the public pool.  There you are lounging, reading a novel or listening to your iPod when all of a sudden a huge group of children show up at the pool.  And I mean huge.  You didn’t know they were coming.  So you’ve got your little ones in the pool while these other children are jumping in.  Would you let your children stay in the pool?  Shoot, I sure wouldn’t!  I’d be afraid they’d be lost in the shuffle with SIXTY (60) children swimming there.  </p>
<p>I’ve left playgrounds when teachers/camp counselors brought a group of 20 children there to play.  I did not feel confident that I could keep track of my children with so many other children around.  Didn’t matter what color they were, as a mom, I just felt safer removing my children from the situation completely.</p>
<p>So, I write all that to “say” – yeah, it could have been racism.  But you know what I think?  I think the swim club didn’t know what it was getting itself into.  I think the swim club’s members were a little shocked to see all these folks converging on the pool at one time. I think sixty children at one time is a lot to bring to any pool, public or private.  I mean, how many lifeguards were there?  Was the pool big enough?? For a  moment forget about race, and put yourself in their place.</p>
<p>No, I’m not getting soft.  Believe me; I’ll call a spade a spade in a minute.  (Remember when those folks called Venus and Serena “gorillas”.   I saw red for days!!)  And this situation just might be a case of racist white folks.</p>
<p>But I think this is a case of miscommunication on both sides and scarcity of resources.  That’s my story and I’m sticking to it.</p>
<p>Shine on!<br />
N’Mama</p>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 02 Mar 2009 22:17:31 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[“Do as I say, not as I do.”  How many of us remember hearing that as a child, or even heard other parents say that to their children?  We all know that children copy what they see and if you want to start helping your child build a positive self-image and to value [...]<p><a href="http://sharethis.com/item?&#038;wp=2.9.2&#38;publisher=a665bfb0-94bd-4d85-a2f9-c6e46c00234e&#38;title=Your+Child%26%238217%3Bs+Self+Esteem&#38;url=http%3A%2F%2Fneosoulmama.info%2Fblack-parent-your-childs-self-esteem.html">ShareThis</a></p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://neosoulmama.info/black-parent-your-childs-self-esteem/adorable-girl-writing-2" rel="attachment wp-att-124"><img src="http://neosoulmama.info/wp-content/uploads/2009/03/girlstudent-150x150.jpg" alt="adorable girl writing" title="adorable girl writing" class="alignright size-thumbnail wp-image-124" width="150" height="150"></a>“Do as I say, not as I do.”  How many of us remember hearing that as a child, or even heard other parents say that to their children?  We all know that children copy what they see and if you want to start helping your child build a positive self-image and to value themselves as a person, then you need to show them your positive self-image!  Children are great mimics and they copy what they see.  Be kind to yourself as a parent.  Be positive when you speak about yourself and place emphasis on your accomplishments and try not to dwell too much on your failures, at least in front of your children.  By doing this, your child will understand that it’s okay to be smart and proud of his/her talents and abilities.  And you will get a boost too!</p>
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<p>As a black parent, I know that it may be difficult to fight against a lot of the negative media out there that concern some black people.  Between the &#8220;judge shows&#8221; and the talk shows you wonder where the heck some of these people come from!  We have to combat this as parents by praising our children each day to show them how accomplished they can become.  For example, give your child something to do such as take out the garbage or pick up their toys, then commend them for a job well done.  Notice that I specified “honest” praise.  Don’t just praise a child to make him/her feel good – this negates its power. </p>
<p>If you find your child feeling angry, sad or depressed, be patient with them.  I know you’re busy as a parent and to see a child moping around may make you wonder “what does s/he have to be sad about”.  Remember, our precious children have feelings just like us and sometimes they just get depressed.  Talk to them, listen to them without pushing your own judgment on them.  Sometimes our children just need to talk.  They may or may not fully understand why they are feeling this way – you are helping them understand their feelings better by lending a sympathetic ear.  You might even suggest some positive behaviors to take their mind off the sadness – but remember to leave the opportunity to talk always open.  A child will be more willing to come to you with their feelings if they can be confident that they will not be punished or judged.</p>
<p>Teaching your child the importance of setting goals and developing a plan of action is a skill that will help them later on in life.  For the littlest ones, five and under, start with small projects such as putting clothes away or the best way to complete a homework assignments.  The older the child, the more complex the plan can be.  Remember to encourage them along the way.</p>
<p>Be sure to tell your child “I love you” every day – hugs and kisses are great too.  Most children love physical affection as it helps them feel closer to you as a mom or dad.   When they act up, which they will, remind them that it’s the behavior you don’t like, and that you still love them.  I have to remind myself to make sure my five year old remembers that and to make sure he feels free to come and tell me anything, whenever.</p>
<p>Following these steps may not make raising a child easier, but it will sweeten the way!</p>
<p>One Love,</p>
<p>N’Mama</p>
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		<title>A  Successful Child</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 09 Jan 2009 16:18:35 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Is your child faltering in school?  Are you at a loss as to how to change your child’s downward direction?  Or are you looking for ways to encourage your child’s continued achievement?  If you answered yes to any of these questions, please sign up for our newsletter, which will deliver educational tips [...]<p><a href="http://sharethis.com/item?&#038;wp=2.9.2&#38;publisher=a665bfb0-94bd-4d85-a2f9-c6e46c00234e&#38;title=A++Successful+Child&#38;url=http%3A%2F%2Fneosoulmama.info%2Fa-successful-child.html">ShareThis</a></p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Is your child faltering in school?  Are you at a loss as to how to change your child’s downward direction?  Or are you looking for ways to encourage your child’s continued achievement?  If you answered yes to any of these questions, please sign up for our newsletter, which will deliver educational tips and articles to your inbox every week.</p>
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<p>Welcome to neosoulmama.info, home of the My Successful Child newsletter.  If you are unfamiliar to this site, let me introduce myself.  I am a mother of three, run my own natural bath/body business and have had over 10 years of experience in urban education.  I also hold a Master’s degree in education.  My specialty is K-8 mathematics, however, given my experience and extensive research and training in the field of education, as well as my on the job training as a mom (smile), I am a tremendous resource in the field of education.</p>
<p>How do you create a successful child?  Is it Kumon, Sylvan or other tutoring type programs?  Certainly these programs can assist a child who is struggling academically, but in order to truly create a child who enjoys school and who understands that you appreciate their hard work and effort, communication and involvement is a must.</p>
<p>A successful child:<br />
•	Asks questions – A child who asks questions shows a curiosity about the world around him/her.  Granted, with three children, I get a lot of questions during the day and to be honest, I don’t answer all of them all the time.  However, I do make the effort to answer most of them.  Answering your child’s questions is a way to open communication between the two of you and an informal way of learning.</p>
<p>•	Is in an atmosphere of informal learning – A lot can be learned from a simple trip to the grocery store.  It’s where my children learned that those pigs and chickens that they saw on the television could be turned into tasty morsels of pork chops and grilled chicken.  They also learned the mechanics of grocery shopping (i.e. pay the money, pack the bags) and that there are people who work at the grocery store.  Of course, the counting and simple mathematics were at work here too.</p>
<p>•	Has role models – Are you willing to learn along with your child?  I think one of my successes as a teacher came from admitting that I didn’t know everything.  If your child asks you a question that you don’t know, then explore the answer together.  This shows your child that everyone is a lifelong learner.</p>
<p>•	Has rules – A child, well, everyone in fact, needs boundaries.  A child should not be left to his/her own devices and allowed to do anything s/he wants.  Children need boundaries and feel more comfortable when limits are set by parents and guardians.</p>
<p>•	Follows a family routine &#8211;   A child feels useful and a part of the family when s/he is encouraged to participate in family chores.  Teach them young and form good habits that will last.</p>
<p>Although a few of these tips do not directly deal with school, these habits will engrain self-respect and discipline that will have an influence on how they perform in school and in life.  </p>
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		<title>The Bush Record On Education</title>
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President George W. Bush’s administration has been notable not only for one of the most significant shifts in federal oversight of education, under the No Child Left Behind Act, but also for new laws, programs, and developments in other areas affecting schools.

No Child Left Behind Act
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<p>President George W. Bush’s administration has been notable not only for one of the most significant shifts in federal oversight of education, under the No Child Left Behind Act, but also for new laws, programs, and developments in other areas affecting schools.<br />
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No Child Left Behind Act</strong><br />
President Bush made the reauthorization of the Elementary and Secondary Education Act a top priority upon entering office. The resulting NCLB law, which he signed Jan. 8, 2002, expanded student testing and introduced new accountability rules for schools that receive federal aid. It requires schools to assess students in reading and mathematics in grades 3-8 and once in high school. If schools fail to keep their students on pace toward proficiency in those subjects, they are identified as needing improvement and face a series of interventions, such as offering public school choice and free tutoring, and eventually being restructured. The law also added a requirement that all teachers be highly qualified according to federal and state rules.</p>
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<p><strong>Reading First</strong><br />
The NCLB law also created the Reading First program, which provided some $1 billion a year to pay for curricular materials and professional development focused on the primary grades. Although popular among educators, the Department of Education’s inspector general issued a series of reports questioning whether department officials overstepped their authority in pushing states to use specific curricula and assessments under the program. The department’s research office also released a report saying that the funding had been successful in improving students’ decoding and other basic skills, but not their reading comprehension.</p>
<p><strong>School Choice</strong><br />
As part of his original plan for the NCLB law, President Bush had sought to allow students in low-performing public schools to use federal aid to attend private schools, as well as to transfer to higher-performing public schools. But facing staunch Democratic opposition, he agreed to drop the voucher element. The public-school-choice provision was enacted, but is widely viewed as ineffective, with very few parents transferring their children to other public schools.</p>
<p>In 2002, the Bush administration argued before the U.S. Supreme Court in support of the constitutionality of including religious schools in publicly funded voucher programs. The court agreed, ruling that the inclusion of religious schools in such programs does not violate the First Amendment’s prohibition against a government establishment of religion. In 2004, the president signed into law the nation’s first federally funded voucher program, which targets students from low-income families in the District of Columbia. It was narrowly enacted in 2004 when Republicans held majorities in Congress, with most Democrats strongly opposed. It provides vouchers worth up to $7,500 per year, and they can be used at religious schools.</p>
<p>Special Education<br />
The Individuals with Disabilities Education Act was reauthorized during President Bush’s first term, with language that ties the special education law to NCLB on such issues as highly qualified teachers for students with disabilities, and the importance of including students with disabilities in assessments. The administration introduced some testing flexibility for states by allowing different state assessments to be used for students with significant cognitive impairments, and students who could meet modified grade-level standards.</p>
<p><strong>Educational Research</strong><br />
The 2002 passage of the Education Sciences Reform Act gave the Bush administration a rare opportunity to abolish the Department of Education’s existing research operation and create a new research agency out of the ashes. The newly christened Institute of Education Sciences, under Grover J. “Russ” Whitehurst, spearheaded the department’s campaign to transform education into an evidence-based practice, much like medicine.</p>
<p>Under Mr. Whitehurst’s six-year tenure, the agency increased the number of randomized experiments the department finances, revamped the agency’s peer-review process, retooled the federal education research laboratory system, and created new grant programs to nurture research talent for the field. The office’s best-known accomplishment, though, may be the What Works Clearinghouse, a sometimes-controversial project set up to vet the evidence base that undergirds many of the programs, policies, and practices used in the nation’s schools.</p>
<p><strong>Gender Issues</strong><br />
First-term Secretary of Education Rod Paige in 2002 established a commission to study Title IX of the Education Amendments of 1972, the federal law that bars sex discrimination in federally funded schools and colleges. Some civil rights and women’s advocacy groups feared the effort was a bid to soften enforcement of the law. After receiving a report full of mostly minor recommendations about athletic participation at the college level, the Education Department largely ignored them, issuing a document in 2003 clarifying previous Title IX guidance.</p>
<p>Meanwhile, citing research that educating boys and girls separately was proving effective in some circumstances, the department in 2006 issued regulations making it easier for public schools to experiment with single-sex education.</p>
<p><strong>Race Issues</strong><br />
The Bush administration weighed in against the use of race in education in a series of landmark Supreme Court cases. In appeals involving race-conscious admissions policies in higher education, the administration struck a cautious tone, and the Education Department issued reports emphasizing ways in which schools and colleges could achieve racial diversity without relying on racial preferences. In those cases, from the University of Michigan, the justices affirmed the constitutionality of affirmative action but struck down some practices.</p>
<p>The administration was more assertive when the justices took up race-conscious student-assignment policies from the Seattle and Jefferson County, Ky., school districts in 2006. It urged the Supreme Court to strike down the plans, which the court did in a 2007 decision that sharply limited the ways K-12 schools could rely on race.</p>
<p><strong>Higher Education</strong><br />
Secretary Margaret Spellings helped spur a dialogue over student financial assistance and college accountability by convening a task force to study higher education. The panel’s 2006 report called for a major new investment in federal student aid. And, more controversially, it encouraged colleges and universities to use value-added assessments to measure students’ skills at the beginning and end of their college careers. Colleges and universities should make the results of those tests public, the panel concluded.</p>
<p>—David J. Hoff, Alyson Klein, Erik W. Robelen, Christina A. Samuels, Debra Viadero, and Mark Walsh</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[My son’s first “real” parent conference is scheduled for today.  Why am I so nervous?  Certainly, as a teacher, I’ve conducted hundreds of parent conferences over the years – conference time, for us was a nice short day, where either you could get your extra work done, or chat with the teacher next [...]<p><a href="http://sharethis.com/item?&#038;wp=2.9.2&#38;publisher=a665bfb0-94bd-4d85-a2f9-c6e46c00234e&#38;title=Successful+Parent+Conferences&#38;url=http%3A%2F%2Fneosoulmama.info%2Fsuccessful-parent-conferences.html">ShareThis</a></p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My son’s first “real” parent conference is scheduled for today.  Why am I so nervous?  Certainly, as a teacher, I’ve conducted hundreds of parent conferences over the years – conference time, for us was a nice short day, where either you could get your extra work done, or chat with the teacher next door.  Now, I’m on the other side of the desk and I’m working to prepare myself for the 15 min face to face.  Yes, I’m one of THOSE moms.  Couldn’t you tell?</p>
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<p>A parent/teacher conference is only as successful as you, the parent, make it.  It makes no sense to let the teacher do all of the talking if you have questions about your child’s performance in school.  The teacher knows how your child acts in school – you may have questions on how to bridge that gap and how you and the teacher can create a successful student together.  The parent/teacher conference is not the time to bring up something your child said happened three weeks ago or last month in the lunchroom.  Any issues that your child brings home to you should be addressed at that time, when the facts are fresh.  Use this fifteen minute window of time to gain as much insight to your child’s school performance as you can. </p>
<p>In order to be prepared for your conference, here are some questions that you can bring with you to ask.  Don’t be afraid to take notes, to appear like a Type A over achieving parent.  This is the image you want to project- by allowing the teacher to realize that you’re on your game, will compel him/her to be on his/her game when it comes to your child.   Take it from a former teacher – there’s nothing that we liked more than a responsive parent who actually paid attention to what was said in the conference and acted on it.  In addition, talk with your child before the conference – ask him/her if there are any questions s/he wants you to ask</p>
<p>Here are some questions (in no particular order) that you might want to ask your child’s teacher.  Feel free to pick and choose the questions that you need as some questions are more appropriate for older or younger grade levels.   I have also uploaded it in a PDF for easy printing.</p>
<p>•	What are my child’s strengths and weaknesses?  What is her best/worst subject?</p>
<p>•	What can I do to continue to support my child at home?  Do you have any suggestions for materials, books, activities etc that we can use to help him?</p>
<p>•	How does she get along with the other students?  Other teachers?</p>
<p>•	**Are there any indications of a disability or other issues?  (i.e. speech, vision, hearing, learning, motor control, ADD, ADHD etc.)</p>
<p>•	Does my child show any special abilities or affinities for art, music, writing, acting?</p>
<p>•	When is the best time to contact you?  Would I be able to contact you via e-mail?<br />
•	Are there any school/community programs from which he might benefit?</p>
<p>•	Are there any skills that need reinforcement at home?</p>
<p>•	How does she handle taking tests?</p>
<p>•	Does he work well independently?</p>
<p>•	How can I continue to support what you do in the classroom at home?</p>
<p>Side note:  **DO NOT, I repeat, DO NOT be afraid to ask this question.  It is better to catch these issues early than to let them continue to affect your child’s achievement.</p>
<p>These are all the questions that we may think to ask when we come in for the conference, but forget to ask in the course of conversation!  Print it out, take your paper in, don’t be ashamed to be a ‘note taker’ and a type A parent.  Believe me, the teachers appreciate it.</p>
<p>Happy Conferencing!</p>
<p>1 in Unity<br />
N’Mama</p>
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		<description><![CDATA[I had the pleasure of reading an article from 2003 entitled “Rich, Black and Flunking” which centered on an anthropological study of a K-12 school district in Shaker Heights, Ohio. Both the parents and school district called in John Ogbu, the author of the study to give them answers as to why many Black students, [...]<p><a href="http://sharethis.com/item?&#038;wp=2.9.2&#38;publisher=a665bfb0-94bd-4d85-a2f9-c6e46c00234e&#38;title=Rich%2C+Black%2C+Flunking+%26%238211%3B+Comments&#38;url=http%3A%2F%2Fneosoulmama.info%2Frich-black-flunking-comments.html">ShareThis</a></p>]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I had the pleasure of reading an article from 2003 entitled “Rich, Black and Flunking” which centered on an anthropological study of a K-12 school district in Shaker Heights, Ohio. Both the parents and school district called in John Ogbu, the author of the study to give them answers as to why many Black students, even though they were at basically the same income level of their White counterparts, were not doing as well in school.</p>
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<p>The findings of Prof. Ogbu, now deceased (2003) were both interesting and appalling. While I won’t claim to condense his entire theory in a sentence or two, the gist of the study was that many Black students regardless of income level, reject the educational system. If a Black student speaks Standard English, studies hard and gets into AP classes, then s/he is seen as “acting white”. Another part of Prof. O theory centers around the fact of voluntary and involuntary minorities. Since Blacks are involuntary minorities, then they reject the mainstream culture (White) because they feel “taken over”. On the other hand, racial minorities such as the Chinese are voluntary minorities because they immigrated here (emigrated?) and thus do all they can to get that American Dream and succeed.</p>
<p>Well, what do I think? I think that as a teacher, I have observed behaviors that play right into Prof. Ogbu’s theory. I have seen the decrease in parental involvement from K to 8 th grade. I have experience parents who won’t come to school about a child’s academic troubles but will show up at the school if a dance or prom is cancelled to complain. I have had students in my class who would not do homework, no matter how I talked, fussed or talked to parents. “Academic Disengagement”, Prof. Ogbu’s words, certainly suit this situation.</p>
<p>In the referenced article, the comment/theory is made that teachers treat black students differently that white students. Prof. O. retorts, ‘if the student hasn’t turned in work for weeks on end, what else is the teacher supposed to do?’ I also concur with that statement. What are we supposed to do as educators? We cannot take the place of the parents!</p>
<p>I am going to keep this post short, as I am still turning over many theories in my mind. Certainly, I know that there are students, both black and white, who are not getting what they need from the school system. Certainly, there are horrible teachers out there who could care less about their students. But, I still believe it is up to the individual to want to succeed and achieve. Success is not “white”, it’s green.</p>
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Rich, Black, Flunking

Cal Professor John Ogbu thinks he knows why rich black kids are failing in school. Nobody wants to hear it.
By Susan Goldsmith
May 21, 2003
Chris Duffey
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<p>Cal Professor John Ogbu thinks he knows why rich black kids are failing in school. Nobody wants to hear it.</p>
<p>By Susan Goldsmith</p>
<p>May 21, 2003<br />
Chris Duffey</p>
<p>The black parents wanted an explanation. Doctors, lawyers, judges, and insurance brokers, many had come to the upscale Cleveland suburb of Shaker Heights specifically because of its stellar school district. They expected their children to succeed academically, but most were performing poorly. African-American students were lagging far behind their white classmates in every measure of academic success: grade-point average, standardized test scores, and enrollment in advanced-placement courses. On average, black students earned a 1.9 GPA while their white counterparts held down an average of 3.45. Other indicators were equally dismal. It made no sense.</p>
<p>When these depressing statistics were published in a high school newspaper in mid-1997, black parents were troubled by the news and upset that the newspaper had exposed the problem in such a public way. Seeking guidance, one parent called a prominent authority on minority academic achievement.</p>
<p>UC Berkeley Anthropology Professor John Ogbu had spent decades studying how the members of different ethnic groups perform academically. He&#8217;d studied student coping strategies at inner-city schools in Washington, DC. He&#8217;d looked at African Americans and Latinos in Oakland and Stockton and examined how they compare to racial and ethnic minorities in India, Israel, Japan, New Zealand, and Britain. His research often focused on why some groups are more successful than others.</p>
<p>But Ogbu couldn&#8217;t help his caller. He explained that he was a researcher &#8212; not an educator &#8212; and that he had no ideas about how to increase the academic performance of students in a district he hadn&#8217;t yet studied. A few weeks later, he got his chance. A group of parents hungry for solutions convinced the school district to join with them and formally invite the black anthropologist to visit Shaker Heights. Their discussions prompted Ogbu to propose a research project to figure out just what was happening. The district agreed to finance the study, and parents offered him unlimited access to their children and their homes.</p>
<p>The professor and his research assistant moved to Shaker Heights for nine months in mid-1997. They reviewed data and test scores. The team observed 110 different classes, from kindergarten all the way through high school. They conducted exhaustive interviews with school personnel, black parents, and students. Their project yielded an unexpected conclusion: It wasn&#8217;t socioeconomics, school funding, or racism, that accounted for the students&#8217; poor academic performance; it was their own attitudes, and those of their parents.</p>
<p>Ogbu concluded that the average black student in Shaker Heights put little effort into schoolwork and was part of a peer culture that looked down on academic success as &#8220;acting white.&#8221; Although he noted that other factors also play a role, and doesn&#8217;t deny that there may be antiblack sentiment in the district, he concluded that discrimination alone could not explain the gap.</p>
<p>&#8220;The black parents feel it is their role to move to Shaker Heights, pay the higher taxes so their kids could graduate from Shaker, and that&#8217;s where their role stops,&#8221; Ogbu says during an interview at his home in the Oakland hills. &#8220;They believe the school system should take care of the rest. They didn&#8217;t supervise their children that much. They didn&#8217;t make sure their children did their homework. That&#8217;s not how other ethnic groups think.&#8221;</p>
<p>It took the soft-spoken 63-year-old Nigerian immigrant several years to complete his book, Black American Students in an Affluent Suburb: A Study of Academic Disengagement, which he wrote with assistance from his research aide Astrid Davis. Before publication, he gave parents and school officials one year to respond to his research, but no parents ever did. Then Ogbu met with district officials and parents to discuss the book, which was finally published in January.</p>
<p>The gatherings were cordial, but it was clear that his conclusions made some people quite uncomfortable. African-American parents worried that Ogbu&#8217;s work would further reinforce the stereotype that blacks are intellectually inadequate and lazy. School district officials, meanwhile, were concerned that it would look as if they were blaming black parents and students for their own academic failures.</p>
<p>But in the weeks following the meetings, it became apparent that the person with the greatest cause for worry may have been Ogbu himself. Soon after he left Ohio and returned to California, a black parent from Shaker Heights went on TV and called him an &#8220;academic Clarence Thomas.&#8221; The National Urban League condemned him and his work in a press release that scoffed, &#8220;The League holds that it is useless to waste time and energy with those who blame the victims of racism.&#8221; The criticism eventually made it all the way to The New York Times, where an article published prior to the publication of Ogbu&#8217;s book quoted or referred to four separate academics who quarreled with his premise. It quoted a Shaker Heights school official who took issue with the professor&#8217;s conclusions, and cited work by the Minority Student Achievement Network that suggested black students care as much about school as white and Asian students. In fact, the reporter failed to locate a single person in Shaker Heights or anywhere else with anything good to say about the book.</p>
<p>Other scholars have since come forward to take a few more swipes at the professor&#8217;s premise. &#8220;Ogbu is just flat-out wrong about the attitudes about learning by African Americans,&#8221; explains Asa Hilliard, an education professor at Georgia State University and one of the authors of Young, Gifted, and Black: Promoting High Achievement Among African-American Students. &#8220;Education is a very high value in the African-American community and in the African community. The fundamental problem is Dr. Ogbu is unfamiliar with the fact that there are thousands of African-American students who succeed. It doesn&#8217;t matter whether the students are in Shaker Heights or an inner city. The achievement depends on what expectations the teacher has of the students.&#8221; Hilliard, who is black, believes Shaker Heights teachers must not expect enough from their black students.</p>
<p>To racial theorist Shelby Steele, the response to Ogbu&#8217;s work was sad but predictable. Steele, a black research fellow at Stanford University&#8217;s Hoover Institution and the author of The Content of Our Character: A New Vision of Race in America, has weathered similar criticism for his own provocative theories about the gap between blacks and whites. He believes continued societal deference to the victims of racial discrimination has permitted blacks &#8220;the license not to meet the same standards that others must meet,&#8221; which has been detrimental to every aspect of African-American life. &#8220;To talk about black responsibility is &#8220;racist&#8217; and &#8220;blaming the victim,&#8217;&#8221; he says. &#8220;They just keep refusing to acknowledge the elephant in the living room &#8212; black responsibility. When anybody in this culture today talks about black responsibility for their problems, they are condemned and ignored.&#8221;</p>
<p>Ogbu knows that better than anybody. In the months since publication of his book, he&#8217;s been called a sellout with no heart for his own people, and dismissed entirely by critics who say his theory is so outrageous it isn&#8217;t even worth debating. It is not surprising that Ogbu himself is now a bit uncomfortable discussing his own conclusions, although he has not backed down at all. After all, many scholars are eager to blame everything but black culture for the scholastic woes of African Americans. &#8220;I look below the surface,&#8221; he says, in response to his many critics. &#8220;They don&#8217;t like it.&#8221;</p>
<p>Parents in Shaker Heights began trying to explain the disquieting gap months before Ogbu arrived. A small group of black and white parents gathered in the mid-1990s to study the issue months before the student newspaper at Shaker Heights High School published its article. Their preliminary explanations were divided into four broad categories: the school system, the community, black parents, and black students. The group concluded that the academic gap was an &#8220;unusually complex subject, involving the internal and external synergistic dynamics not only of the school system, but also of the parents and of students, collectively and individually, as well as our community as a whole.&#8221;</p>
<p>It was a diplomatic way of saying there was much blame to go around, some of it attributable to black parents or students. Although many black parents would later react negatively to Ogbu&#8217;s work, this biracial group had in fact beaten him to some of his conclusions. &#8220;Ogbu didn&#8217;t find anything new,&#8221; recalls Reuben Harris, an African-American parent who served on the subcommittee. &#8220;It&#8217;s just a community where you wouldn&#8217;t think this kind of gap would occur.&#8221;</p>
<p>Ogbu agreed. And because he had spent much of his prior career looking at inner-city schools, he was particularly intrigued by the idea of studying a relatively affluent minority group in an academically successful suburban district. This was an opportunity to do a new kind of research. Why were there such stark differences when the socioeconomic playing field was comparably level? How could you explain the achievement discrepancies when they couldn&#8217;t be dismissed with the traditional explanations of inadequate teachers or disparities in school funding?</p>
<p>Shaker Heights is an upper-middle-class city whose roughly 28,000 residents live on lovely tree-lined streets that run through neighborhoods of stately homes and manicured lawns. Years ago, both blacks and Jews were prohibited from living in the community by restrictive real-estate covenants, but the civil rights era brought a new attitude to the Cleveland suburb, which voluntarily integrated and actively discouraged white flight. Today, blacks make up about one third of the community, and many of them are academics, professionals, and corporate executives.</p>
<p>Ogbu worked from the 1990 census data, which showed that 32.6 percent of the black households and 58 percent of the white households in Shaker had incomes of $50,000 a year or more &#8212; a considerable sum in northeast Ohio. It also was a highly educated community, where 61 percent of the residents graduated from college, about four times the national average. The school district was a model of success, too: Considered one of the best in the nation, it sent 85 percent of its students to college. Today, the district has approximately 5,000 students, of whom 52 percent are African American.</p>
<p>These were the kids of primarily well-educated middle- to upper-class parents, and yet they were not performing on a par with their white classmates in everything from grade-point average to college attendance. Although they did outperform other black students from across Ohio and around the country, neither school officials nor parents were celebrating.</p>
<p>Ogbu&#8217;s approach was to use ethnographic methods to study the problems in Shaker Heights. In ethnography, the point is to try and &#8220;get inside the heads of the natives,&#8221; he says. &#8220;You try to see the world as they see, and be with them &#8212; as one of my colleagues puts it &#8212; in all sorts of moods.&#8221; An ethnographer lives in the community, talks to his subjects extensively, observes the environment, reviews data, but then derives his own conclusions about the situation.</p>
<p>Many of Ogbu&#8217;s academic critics take issue with his methods, which they say are way too subjective. Most of them are sociologists, who rely on their subjects&#8217; own sense of the situation when studying something. It is the view of those being studied and not the view of the researcher that counts most. &#8220;They do surveys,&#8221; Ogbu says. &#8220;They ask questions. I live in the community and socialize. My research is not confined to schools. I tell you what I observe.&#8221;</p>
<p>Ogbu addresses this point in the introduction to his book: &#8220;The natives&#8217; own account of their social reality is also a social construction rather than a reality that is out there.&#8221; He uses the example of racial attitudes in Shaker Heights to show why he believes this approach fails. Ask people there about race relations in the community and you will get wildly divergent opinions, depending on whom you ask. Whites, he found, say it is a racially harmonious and tolerant place. African Americans, meanwhile, describe the community as racially troubled and filled with tension between blacks and whites.</p>
<p>There are other differences between Ogbu&#8217;s approach and that of most other academics who study minorities and education. They focus their scrutiny on the academic system or society at large, pointing to factors such as socioeconomics, inadequate urban schools, or the legacy of racism in the United States. Such theorists often cite the 1994 publication of The Bell Curve, which argued that blacks are intellectually inferior to whites, as evidence that negative stereotyping of African Americans still exists.</p>
<p>Ogbu, however, trains his eye elsewhere. &#8220;I am interested in what kids bring from home to school,&#8221; he says. &#8220;And it seems to me there are different categories of students and they bring different things. I want to know what are those things.&#8221;</p>
<p>The question of what students in Shaker Heights brought to school from their homes turned out to be profound. Black homes and the black community both nurtured failure, he concluded.</p>
<p>When Ogbu asked black students what it took to do well in the Shaker district, they had the right answers. They knew what to say about how to achieve academic success, but that knowledge wasn&#8217;t enough. &#8220;In spite of the fact that the students knew and asserted that one had to work hard to succeed in Shaker schools, black students did not generally work hard,&#8221; he wrote. &#8220;In fact, most appeared to be characterized by low-effort syndrome. The amount of time and effort they invested in academic pursuit was neither adequate nor impressive.&#8221;</p>
<p>Ogbu found a near-consensus among black students of every grade level that they and their peers did not work hard in school. The effort these students put into their schoolwork also decreased markedly from elementary school to high school. Students gave many reasons for their disinterest. Some said they simply didn&#8217;t want to do the work; others told Ogbu &#8220;it was not cool to be successful.&#8221; Some kids blamed school for their failures and said teachers did not motivate them, while others said they wanted to do well but didn&#8217;t know how to study. Some students evidently had internalized the belief that blacks are not as intelligent as whites, which gave rise to self-doubt and resignation. But almost of the students admitted that they simply failed to put academic achievement before other pursuits such as TV, work, playing sports, or talking on the phone.</p>
<p>The anthropologist also looked at peer pressure among black students to determine just what effect that had on school performance. He concluded that there was a culture among black students to reject behaviors perceived to be &#8220;white,&#8221; which included making good grades, speaking Standard English, being overly involved in class, and enrolling in honors or advanced-placement courses. The students told Ogbu that engaging in these behaviors suggested one was renouncing his or her black identity. Ogbu concluded that the African-American peer culture, by and large, put pressure on students not to do well in school, as if it were an affront to blackness.</p>
<p>The professor says he discovered this sentiment even in middle- and upper-class homes where the parents were college-educated. &#8220;Black parents mistrusted the school system as a white institution,&#8221; he wrote. They did not supervise their children&#8217;s homework, didn&#8217;t show up at school events, and failed to motivate their children to engage in their work. This too was a cultural norm, Ogbu concluded. &#8220;They thought or believed, that it was the responsibility of teachers and the schools to make their children learn and perform successfully; that is, they held the teachers, rather than themselves, accountable for their children&#8217;s academic success or failure,&#8221; he wrote.</p>
<p>Why black parents who mistrusted the school district as a white institution would leave it up to that same system to educate their children confounded Ogbu. &#8220;I&#8217;m still trying to understand it,&#8221; he conceded. &#8220;It&#8217;s a system you don&#8217;t trust, and yet you don&#8217;t take the education of your own kids into your hands.&#8221;</p>
<p>Ogbu&#8217;s critics find much to argue with in his Shaker Heights work. They believe his methods were shoddy, his research incomplete, and his assumptions about Shaker Heights outdated or wrong. They say the black community is far less affluent than Ogbu portrayed it and add that many of the black parents are first-generation college graduates with fewer family resources than their white counterparts. By and large, they blame the district and outside forces such as discrimination, stereotyping, and poor job opportunities as the cause of its academic problems. Talk to these critics and you also get a sense that they see Ogbu as a bit heartless.</p>
<p>&#8220;I find it useless to argue with people like Ogbu,&#8221; says Urban League educational fellow Ronald Ross, himself a former school superintendent. &#8220;We know what the major problems in this school system are: racism, lack of funding, and unqualified teachers.&#8221; Although Shaker Heights is in fact an integrated, well-funded, and well-staffed school district, Ross is nonetheless convinced that it suffers from other problems that contribute to the achievement disparities between the races.</p>
<p>Ronald Ferguson, a senior research associate at Harvard University&#8217;s Kennedy School of Government who also is studying Shaker Heights, believes the denial of equal educational and socioeconomic opportunities is at the root of the gap. He argues that Ogbu didn&#8217;t pay enough attention to these essential differences, which he blames for the achievement disparities. The key to those differences is the amount of preparation students receive for academic challenges. &#8220;The differences in homework completion are not necessarily signs of lower-level academic disengagement,&#8221; Ferguson says. &#8220;Instead, they&#8217;re signs of skill differences, and in family-background supports.&#8221;</p>
<p>Ferguson notes that even in affluent Shaker Heights, the rates of parental education are lower among African Americans than whites, and half the black students report living with one or no parent. &#8220;Ogbu writes as though the differences in family background are not very great, but in fact, they&#8217;re substantial,&#8221; he says.</p>
<p>Ogbu rejects this criticism in a way that suggests he&#8217;s sick of hearing it.</p>
<p>&#8220;Nonsense,&#8221; he says, dismissively. &#8220;What about other groups that come from one-parent families, like refugees, and they do better than the blacks? In Shaker Heights, 58 percent of the whites in 1990 made $50,000 to $100,000. Thirty-two percent of the black families made the same amount. The people who invited me are lawyers, real-estate agents; one was elected judge just last year. Over 65 percent of that community had at least four years college education. It&#8217;s not a poor community.&#8221;</p>
<p>Ogbu points out that another recent study of fourteen affluent communities around the United States found that the achievement gap between well-heeled whites and blacks is widespread, and not confined to Shaker Heights. &#8220;This is not unique,&#8221; he says.</p>
<p>Although it&#8217;s perhaps not surprising that Ogbu&#8217;s theory would be criticized by a competing researcher with his own explanation for what&#8217;s happening in Shaker Heights, even colleagues who have worked with Ogbu in the past are eager to put some distance between themselves and the anthropologist&#8217;s latest work. Signithia Fordham is a professor of anthropology at the University of Rochester in New York who did research with Ogbu in the 1980s. It was that research that popularized the concept of &#8220;acting white,&#8221; the notion that black students avoid certain behaviors like doing well in school, or speaking Standard English, because it is considered &#8220;white.&#8221; The two researchers were criticized harshly over that research, which has been attacked in at least ten doctoral dissertations. Ogbu is now writing a book about that work.</p>
<p>Although Fordham did not want to comment on Ogbu&#8217;s latest work, it is clear that her beliefs are almost exactly opposite from those of her former colleague. She believes school pressure to speak Standard English and &#8220;act white&#8221; is the very thing that makes black students fail. &#8220;What I found, the requirements in school compelled them to act in ways as if they weren&#8217;t living in black bodies but who were essentially white or mainstream Americans,&#8221; she says. &#8220;Kids found it difficult to deal with that and they found strategies to deal with it. They had to speak a certain variety of English in order to be successful. They had to buy into the ideas that dominate mainstream America. &#8230; Black kids couldn&#8217;t just be who they were.&#8221;</p>
<p>In Ogbu&#8217;s work with other American minority groups, the anthropologist has identified a core distinction that he believes is central to academic success or failure. It is the idea of voluntary, versus involuntary, minorities. People who voluntarily immigrate to the United States always do better than the involuntary immigrants, he believes. &#8220;I call Chicanos and Native Americans and blacks &#8216;involuntary minorities,&#8217;&#8221; he says. &#8220;They joined American society against their will. They were enslaved or conquered.&#8221; Ogbu sees this distinction as critical for long-term success in and out of school.</p>
<p>&#8220;Blacks say Standard English is being imposed on them,&#8221; he says. &#8220;That&#8217;s not what the Chinese say, or the Ibo from Nigeria. You come from the outside and you know you have to learn Standard English, or you won&#8217;t do well in school. And you don&#8217;t say whites are imposing on you. The Indians and blacks say, &#8216;Whites took away our language and forced us to learn their language. They caused the problem.&#8217;&#8221;</p>
<p>Georgia State University&#8217;s Hilliard brushes all this attitude stuff aside. He is convinced that the way teachers approach students of different races is key to understanding academic disparities. &#8220;It doesn&#8217;t matter whether the students are in Shaker Heights or an inner city,&#8221; he says. &#8220;The achievement depends on what expectations the teacher has of the student. There are savage inequalities in the quality of instruction offered to children. &#8230; Based on other things we do know, many teachers face students who are poor or wealthy and, because of their own background, make an assumption certain students can&#8217;t make it. I wouldn&#8217;t be surprised to find that would be the case in Shaker Heights.&#8221;</p>
<p>Ogbu did, in fact, note that teachers treated black and white students differently in the 110 classes he observed. However, he doesn&#8217;t believe it was racism that accounted for the differences. &#8220;Yes, there was a problem of low teacher expectations of black students,&#8221; he explains. &#8220;But you have to ask why. Week after week the kids don&#8217;t turn in their homework. What do you expect teachers to do?&#8221;</p>
<p>Vincent Roscigno is not convinced by Ogbu&#8217;s Shaker Heights theory. A sociology professor at Ohio State University who studies race and class disadvantages in achievement, he says Ogbu&#8217;s latest premise descends from a long line of blame-the-victim research. &#8220;A problem in racial research historically has been to vilify the culture of the subordinate group,&#8221; Roscigno says. &#8220;In the 1960s, a popular explanation for poverty was a culture-of-poverty thesis. That thesis argued the problems of urban poor people had to do with their culture and they were being guided the wrong way by their culture. &#8230; At the turn of the century, the culture of white immigrants was blamed for their poverty and all the social conditions they faced.&#8221;</p>
<p>Roscigno also believes Ogbu&#8217;s research methods are flawed because he failed to do any comparative research on white families in Shaker Heights, substantially weakening his premise. &#8220;He&#8217;s drawing very big conclusions about black students and black families in a case where he doesn&#8217;t do much comparison,&#8221; Roscigno says. &#8220;We don&#8217;t know if white students would say anything different.&#8221;</p>
<p>Ogbu barks a bit defensively in response: &#8220;I was invited by black parents. If I had more money and more time, I could study everybody.&#8221;</p>
<p>John McWhorter, the author of Losing the Race: Self-Sabotage in Black America, says Ogbu&#8217;s book roiled the waters of academia, which he believes is too invested in blaming whites for the problems plaguing black America. &#8220;There&#8217;s a shibboleth in the academic world and that is that the only culture that has any negative traits is the white, middle-class West,&#8221; says McWhorter, a UC Berkeley professor of linguistics who is currently serving as a senior fellow at the Manhattan Institute, a New York think tank.</p>
<p>McWhorter&#8217;s own book, based largely on the author&#8217;s experiences as a black man and professor, blames a mentality of victimhood as the primary reason for most of the problems in black communities &#8212; including educational underachievement. &#8220;There&#8217;s an idea in black culture that says Plato and hypotenuses are for other people,&#8221; he says. &#8220;There is an element of black identity today that sees doing well in school as being outside of the core of black identity. It&#8217;s a tacit sentiment, but powerful. As a result of that, some of what we see in the reluctance of many parents, administrators, and black academics to quite confront the &#8216;acting white&#8217; syndrome is that deep down many of them harbor a feeling that it would be unhealthy for black kids to embrace school culture too wholeheartedly.&#8221;</p>
<p>Nor is Steele, who&#8217;s also been dismissed as a sellout in his day, surprised by the way the scholarly world has reacted to Ogbu&#8217;s latest work. &#8220;Academics are a sad case,&#8221; Steele says. &#8220;They support the politics of white responsibility for black problems. If they were to do research that found blacks responsible they&#8217;d be &#8216;Uncle Toms,&#8217; and that&#8217;s how they&#8217;ve treated Ogbu.&#8221;</p>
<p>Ogbu seems a bit bothered by the avalanche of criticism that&#8217;s come his way. He treads carefully when he talks about his work and reiterates repeatedly in his writing and in person that he is not excusing the system. First of all, he concedes there are historic socioeconomic explanations to account for some black academic disengagement. Historically, there has been a weak link between academic success and upward mobility for African Americans. Blacks traditionally saw big leaps in social mobility only during times of national crisis such as war &#8212; or during shortages of immigrant labor. &#8220;If those are the points where they move, it&#8217;s not a kind of experience that allows a group to plan their educational future,&#8221; Ogbu says.</p>
<p>In his book, he writes that the school district in Shaker Heights could do more to involve black parents and work at building more trust. He believes school officials should expand their existing Minority Achievement Committee, adopt more cooperative approaches to learning, and educate teachers about how their expectations can affect student performance. &#8220;I don&#8217;t think it&#8217;s one thing,&#8221; he says cautiously. &#8220;There are a whole lot of things involved. My advice is we should look at each very carefully.&#8221;</p>
<p>But Ogbu is adamant in his belief that racism alone does not account for the distressing differences. &#8220;Discrimination is not enough to explain the gap,&#8221; he says. &#8220;There are studies showing that black African immigrants and Caribbean immigrants do better than black Americans even though some of them come with language barriers. It&#8217;s just not race.&#8221;</p>
<p>Ogbu believes he knows this firsthand. The son of parents who couldn&#8217;t read, he grew up in a remote Nigerian village with no roads. His father had three wives and seventeen children with those women. Ogbu has a difficult time explaining his own academic success, which has earned him numerous accolades throughout his career. He did both undergraduate and graduate work at Berkeley and has never left. When pressed, he says he believes his own success primarily stems from being a voluntary immigrant who knew that no matter how many hurdles he had to overcome in the United States, his new life was an improvement over a hut in Nigeria with no running water. Involuntary immigrants don&#8217;t think that way, he says. They have no separate homeland to compare things to, yet see the academic demands made of them as robbing them of their culture. Ogbu would like to see involuntary immigrants, such as the black families in Shaker Heights, think more like voluntary immigrants. In doing that, he says, they&#8217;d understand that meeting academic challenges does not &#8220;displace your identity.&#8221;</p>
<p>The parents who invited Ogbu to Shaker Heights are uncertain about what to do with his theory. They know he is one of the preeminent scholars in his field, and yet his premise makes many of them uncomfortable and angry. They insist that they care deeply about education, which many say is the reason they moved to Shaker Heights. They feel betrayed by the very person they turned to for help.</p>
<p>Khalid Samad, the parent who compared Ogbu to Clarence Thomas, believes the professor fails to understand the black experience in America and how that creates problems for African-American students. &#8220;The system has de-educated and miseducated African Americans,&#8221; he says. &#8220;Africans came here having some knowledge of who they were and their history and they had a self-acceptance. For several generations there has been a systematic robbing African Americans of their sociocultural identity and their personal identity. The depth of that kind of experience has created the kinds of problems we&#8217;re still grappling with today.&#8221;</p>
<p>Meanwhile, Howard Hall, a black Shaker Heights parent who is a child psychologist and professor at Case Western University, believes Ogbu had his mind made up before he even started his research. &#8220;It&#8217;s scandalous to blame the kids for this,&#8221; he says. &#8220;It&#8217;s a good school system, but there are weaknesses in addressing the racial disparity and it&#8217;s not the parents&#8217; fault. Effective schools set up an environment where most kids reach their potential.&#8221;</p>
<p>Obgu&#8217;s theory did find some support among black parents. Although they are in the minority, these parents believe he&#8217;s pointed out a painful but powerful truth, and are happy to see it aired. &#8220;I already held his position before he did his research,&#8221; says Nancy Jones, who has one child in the district and two who have graduated. &#8220;You can&#8217;t get African-American parents to get involved and stay involved.&#8221;</p>
<p>Jones says she is sick of the finger-pointing and blaming in her community, and was thrilled to see Ogbu highlight why this is detrimental. &#8220;We come from this point of view of slavery and victimhood and every problem is due to racist white people,&#8221; she says. &#8220;That victim mentality is perpetrated by parents and they&#8217;re doing their kids a disservice. &#8230; My primary objective is not to hold someone accountable but to close the achievement gap.&#8221;</p>
<p>Other parents also agree with Ogbu, Jones says, and will admit it privately, but publicly, it&#8217;s too politically charged. &#8220;When you&#8217;re in a public setting people are less apt to speak their mind if they think it&#8217;s politically incorrect.&#8221;</p>
<p>Sadly, Jones says, harsh criticism of Ogbu&#8217;s Shaker Heights work has made any positive change nearly impossible. &#8220;Experts are telling the parents, &#8216;The research wasn&#8217;t good,&#8217; and, &#8216;Disregard him,&#8217;&#8221; she says. &#8220;Besides, the parents&#8217; gut instinct tells them the district is at fault. When you have that many academics trashing him, it&#8217;s easy to write off his conclusions. I&#8217;m having my doubts his work is going to motivate African-American parents and kids.&#8221;</p>
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<p>As Black Americans, it has been difficult through the years to feel a real connection to a country whose people, in some places, still feel the innate need to treat a person of a different race as a second class person.  Although Dr. King and at the latter part of his life, Malcolm X, tried to help white people understand and recognize the fact that we are ALL equal, regardless of skin color, and deserve all the rights and privileges allowed to whites in this country, even in 2008, this still hasn’t happened on a large, recognizable scale.</p>
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<p>So I wonder then, about those Black people who decided (and still decide) to serve their country, proudly demonstrating their connection to their country (for what deeper connection could you have with a nation when you enlist voluntarily to kill for it?), but still are treated as less than?  What could that possible do to the psyche?</p>
<p>Cases in point:</p>
<p><a href="http://www.pbs.org/wgbh/aia/part2/2p24.html"><em>Crispus Attucks</em></a> – The first causality of the American Revolution.  We used to have a day off in our NJ School district, but that was phased out some time ago.  Still, although a slave, he honored as &#8220;the first to defy, the first to die” and a true martyr of the American Revolution.  Why did he feel he had to fight against British soldiers FOR the Americans, even though the Americans considered him “chattel”?  Whatever the answer, he did what he felt driven to do, and was killed for it.<br />
<a href="http://www.tuskegeeairmen.org/Tuskegee_Airmen_History.html"><br />
<em>Tuskegee Airmen</em></a> –  I imagine these Black men as sharp, intelligent and dashing – of course, what else could airplane fighter pilots be?  Way before Top Gun, these Black men overcame unimaginable odds to become America’s first Black airmen.  They risked their lives for a country that assumed they lacked the skill and the intelligence to even become pilots.  Not only did they have to fight against the enemy, but they also had to fight racism and bigotry on their own native soil. (Interestingly enough, many white flight units were undermanned, but could not use any of these brave pilots because of the military’s segregation policy.  Talk about cutting off your nose to spite your face!)</p>
<p><a href="http://www.nps.gov/pwso/honor/miller.htm"><em>Dorie Miller</em></a>:  and added information<a href="http://www.history.navy.mil/faqs/faq57-4.htm"><em> here</em></a> : During the bombing of Pearl Harbor on December 7, 1941, Seaman Dorie Miller ran up on deck, dragged an officer to safety and used the ship’s machine gun to shoot down several Japanese fighter bombers.  He was awarded the Navy Cross, but none of the other medals to which he was entitled.  Nevertheless, he went on to serve on other ships until his presumed death at sea in 1944 on the Liscombe Bay.</p>
<p>My father was in the Air Force back in the fifties.  As the story goes (and I’ve heard it about a dozen times, but keep telling it, Dad!) he was in Texas for a layover.  So, like any other traveler, he decided to pass the time in the bus waiting room.  He walks in, sits down, in his full Air Force uniform, to wait for the next bus.  You know the feeling you get when you are being watched?  Well, that’s what my dad felt – the white folks in the waiting room were certainly giving this black man the “eye”.  So the well-mannered (not) security guard walks over and says to my dad, “Look here, boy, don’t you know where the colored waiting room is at?” and points to a windowless, airless room off the side.<br />
Well, let’s just say my dad decided NOT to wait in the bus station that day, choosing instead to walk with a fellow military friend in search of the Officers’ Club.  And after telling the story, he always says how angry he was that he got his spit-shined shoes dusty after walking down those country roads.</p>
<p>The point of all this, is simply to say that here we are in the midst of a presidential race with the first Black presidential candidate to be backed by a major political party, but racism still exists.  I am nearly 40 years old, born a year after Dr. Martin Luther King was assassinated, and though there has been change, I don’t believe there’s been enough change.  Not when I can be asked my first year of college – “So, didja get in through the affirmative action clause?” by a so-called classmate (who incidentally was from Texas too….what do they have in the water down there?)  </p>
<p>I, as a Black woman, certainly recognize that if I had to choose a country in which to live, I wouldn’t choose any other than America, land of the free, home of the brave. But, for these examples that I’ve cited, there’s been hundreds upon thousands of incidents, small ones perhaps, but even those that stoke the fire of anger that many of us, as “the darker brother” carry inside.</p>
<p>Will America ever truly be color blind, or will we continue to judge and be judged by the color of our skin?  And what of those that served, and continue to serve, yet are still judged as still not “good enough?”</p>
<p>Black men serve their country every day, yet are still not welcome nor treated fairly in the very country that they serve.  Can you even wonder that many Blacks are angry inside, that we have to work twice as hard to get half as far, and still deemed “not good enough?”</p>
<p><strong>I, Too</strong></p>
<p>  	I, too, sing America.</p>
<p>I am the darker brother.<br />
They send me to eat in the kitchen<br />
When company comes,<br />
But I laugh,<br />
And eat well,<br />
And grow strong.</p>
<p>Tomorrow,<br />
I&#8217;ll be at the table<br />
When company comes.<br />
Nobody&#8217;ll dare<br />
Say to me,<br />
&#8220;Eat in the kitchen,&#8221;<br />
Then.</p>
<p>Besides,<br />
They&#8217;ll see how beautiful I am<br />
And be ashamed&#8211;</p>
<p>I, too, am America.</p>
<p><em>Langston Hughes</em></p>
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